If you find roofing lead in sheets you can be sure it is soft as it has to be pliable. If you get ingots you can see if you can sctch it with a fingernail or just drop it on a hard surface from a couple feet and see if it dents. Very scientific eh? You could get a brinel hardness tester but those are pricey.
I don't know how to separate the zinc and antimony from the lead in wheel weights.
As far as equipment goes: we use the same cheap lead pot Gary does, the Lee bottom pour unit that runs about $65-70. It is not high tech or particularly rugged but it gets the job done. Had I known we would cast as many slugs as we have, I would probably bought a better pot but so it goes. The Lee pot should be fine unless you go into mass production!
Get a thermometer so you can identify the best temperature for the various molds. Also, the Lee pot does not hold a particular temperature very well and knowing the temp allows you to adjust during the session.
You'll need a wood handled spoon to mix the lead and tin and you will want a broader spoon to scoop the dross off the top of the lead. Get some borax for fluxing and cleaning the mix, one box will last forever.
Gary suggests about an inch of tin (from the sticks Midway sells) for a full pot of lead. That advice has worked well for us.
For most molds a starting temp of about 720 degrees works well. For your .87 mold you will find that lower temps might be better as the mold will hold a lot of heat. The massive slugs just have so much energy that it is fairly easy to get the mold too hot. Just take a short break and start again... Most molds need a little pre-heat to get to good slugs sooner. Use a propane torch to pre-heat or just prop the mold over the pot as it comes up to temp. Don't over do the pre-heat, you don't want a glowing mold and you don't want to warp it by spot heating. If you get frosty slugs, your mold is too hot or your lead is too hot. The slugs are probably fine but the finish will be frosty and I've found that getting stuff too hot can lead to brittle slugs or more slugs that have air bubble problems. In any case, frosty means something needs to be cooled.
Wrinkles in the slugs mean you are not up to the best mold temperature or you need more tin. Try casting more slugs to get the mold up to temp before you add tin. Also, check the lead temp and add 30 degrees or so if you followed the suggestion for tin content.
When you get to where you are getting good slugs with few rejects, note all the settings! They will be different for your smaller and huge mold!